Why I Love Marilyn Monroe's Selfish Quote

 “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

― Marilyn Monroe I love this quote because I tend to be out of control. Sometimes I can’t help it. Sometimes I can’t control my feelings or impulses. I can be rude, insensitive, and be quick to anger. I need to stop and think before acting and before saying things that I can’t take back. Marilyn Monroe says the mistakes she makes are what makes her human. I need to remember this because that's the best I can be. I can’t continue to live in this fantasy where I can just go around being perfect and because I don’t get what I want I am worthless. I have flaws. I am a human and therefore flawed. No matter how much I try to behave, I am always going to have weaknesses and baggage. I am not perfect and I will never be perfect. I love Marilyn Monroe because she is everything I wish I could be. She is someone who still has some fire left in her, and who keeps it going. She loves herself and she doesn’t need other people to validate her worth. She is still there for herself and she knows who she is. Perfection Is A Cruel Frame Of Mind “The main difference between a crafter and a perfectionist is that while a crafter knows the limits of his or her abilities, a perfectionist feels he or she has to do it all.” ― Dave Barry I am a perfectionist. I want to do everything perfectly. I don’t want to make a mistake, or I find it hard to stop. I know that in a life, mistakes are normal, but when it comes to my creations, I want to be perfect. I keep trying new things but I always want to do it exactly the way I want. I don’t think I’m that patient and it doesn’t come naturally. But being a perfectionist does make things happen and get done. It is a very productive way to be and I like that about myself. I know how to get things done in a quick and efficient way. I am not one to waste time doing something I’m not passionate about, nor am I the type to procrastinate. It seems like I have a type. I like to make things to showcase how creative I am. It’s a goal and a hobby I can have forever. I love this quote because I don’t have to force myself to do something I want. I can let it be fun, something I enjoy, and only focus on that. The feeling that comes from being creative is worth it’s weight in gold. Not Good Enough To Try “I try to be beautiful. I think I succeed. I try to be intelligent. I think I succeed. I try to be funny. I think I succeed. I try to be rich. I think I succeed. I try to be a genius. I think I succeed. I keep trying to be something. Finally, I become what I am. I think that if you're not trying, you're not succeeding.” ― Joan Rivers This quote really spoke to me because it is the mindset that I need to let go of. I’m a perfectionist. I will never be completely comfortable with who I am. My friends think I am great and I have so much to offer. They might not say it and I won’t ask them, but they tell me all the time that they know I am going to do something great. But why can’t I see it? Why am I so scared to think that I am a good writer or a good artist? It’s not that I think I’m bad at what I do, it’s that I am afraid that I am not good enough. I keep comparing myself to others and I am afraid that no one else can do what I do. If someone else does it, then they can do it better. And if they are better, then I am not good enough. I can’t see how I can improve. The funny thing is that no one else can see how I can improve. I am the only one who can see what I need to do. It’s time to be patient with myself. But the main thing that these quotes have shown me is that I need to relax. I need to think about other things, to challenge myself. To stretch my boundaries and not be so lazy. Everyone needs to do this in their own way, but if I focus on being more creative and not just working hard, I will do something great. “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ― Jim Rohn Work Hard And Have Fun “If you are willing to work hard, you will find many different areas where you can excel. Learn and do what you love, create new skills and find ways to make things better.” ― Esther Perel I have been at this for about 8 years and I love it. The whole time, I have always worked to be a better version of myself. Now I have the freedom to do it, but it is very challenging. At the beginning, I had the goal of being better and then focusing on my relationships. I was focused on improving myself and my personal development. I did a lot of studying, working with children, attending therapy and learning the basics of living. And here I am, 8 years later, and all I do is work. I am so grateful to have a job, but it feels like it comes from a place that I am not sure I enjoy. There is a bigger picture that I want to explore, but I am not sure that it is time for me to do that yet. I am still on the same path and working hard to improve my career. I know that it will help me in the long run. But I don’t think it is right to dedicate myself 100% to a single area. I also need to keep in mind that my time with my family is precious. If I am spending my time working, I feel like I am not spending enough with my family. If I am choosing a career that will make me a better person, my children will benefit. But not if I am working my butt off to become a better businessman, writer, investor or whatever. It’s true that every career has pros and cons. I think that in order to find balance, we need to focus on our family and not be a workaholic. If I do this, I am sure that I will be able to find time to go deeper in my passion and really chase my dreams. I really love my job and I am not going to leave it. I am just going to make it better. “Before you go to bed, ask yourself, ‘What have I accomplished?’ You have nothing to prove to anyone. Don’t let pride get in the way of what’s best for yourself.” ― Tim Grover