The purpose of our lives is to be happy." — Dalai Lama I love this quote because for me, happiness means having contentment with yourself and being appreciative of everything around you. Happiness doesn't have to be an outward show; it's an inner feeling that radiates from the inside. Happiness is about appreciating the things that you have. This is the key to 'being happy' and 'reaping the benefits' of life. Welfare is Happiness Happiness is a feeling of well-being. Being generous is a way to increase our happiness. Over the past year, I wrote a blog post about the five factors of the most generous people. The five factors were: "How do you see yourself? Are you a giver or a taker? Do you believe that others should be helping and supporting you? Do you believe that you are entitled to all that you need and deserve? Do you give to others when you get something in return? Do you look for ways to improve the lives of other people around you?" Being generous is another way of achieving happiness. It also encourages you to develop deeper relationships with the people in your life. Ask your friends and family for help if you need it. Helping others often involves little effort or investment on your part. It does take a little more time than it does to simply receive help. But that is all part of your happiness equation. It makes you a happier person to make others happy. So the more you give to others, the more you will receive in return. "If you find someone who helps you to be better, happier, more fulfilled, do not deprive him of this knowledge." — Dalai Lama Express Gratitude When people talk about making the world a better place, I often wonder what they are talking about. It seems that there is always something that I would like to do that is not within my power to do. It is like a search for the 'greatest desire' of my heart. I believe that it is important to live life to the fullest every day. However, there is also a need to acknowledge how good we have it. By this I mean, we need to give thanks for the things that we do have and we need to express our gratitude to others for things that they have done for us. I encourage my kids to give a thank you card or note whenever they thank someone for a gift or service that was given to them. I also encourage them to take someone out for coffee to thank them for something they have done. This shows gratitude and it will help them grow and learn. "Gratitude is the remembrance of joy and love" — Thomas Merton Think about a person in your life that you can express your gratitude to. Do not wait for a holiday to do this. Write them a card. Give them a gift. Thank them in person. Even small gestures can go a long way. "I want people to be kind to each other, to love one another, and I hope for a more happy and peaceful world." — Dalai Lama Everyone has their own reason to be happy. For me, my reason to be happy is: To be happy and live a full life, I need to appreciate and make the most of my blessings.
“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe I love this quote because I tend to be out of control. Sometimes I can’t help it. Sometimes I can’t control my feelings or impulses. I can be rude, insensitive, and be quick to anger. I need to stop and think before acting and before saying things that I can’t take back. Marilyn Monroe says the mistakes she makes are what makes her human. I need to remember this because that's the best I can be. I can’t continue to live in this fantasy where I can just go around being perfect and because I don’t get what I want I am worthless. I have flaws. I am a human and therefore flawed. No matter how much I try to behave, I am always going to have weaknesses and baggage. I am not perfect and I will never be perfect. I love Marilyn Monroe because she is every